Caution: Read at your own risk!

Lately I have been seeing a lot of Facebook chatter about abortion and how Christians are doing pickets at clinics and concerts and all kinds of places. Most of these posts and reposts are from my "Christian" friends. It truly makes my stomach turn. 

Here is why. I have a friend who was raped. I know the struggles she has to face on a daily basis and she didn't have a baby from that situation. But if she had gotten pregnant I can't even imagine how much worse this would be for her. It is a situation that you can't even begin to comprehend unless you have been in it. And just from the struggles I've watched my friend go through, I don't think having a baby from that would have been good. Not just because she has nightmares still 15 years later, but because I can't even begin to imagine how you would feel joy over that kind of pregnancy. 

See all of these people think that because it is a baby, a human life, this is a no brainer. It's an easy thing to say "just give it up for adoption" and in a perfect world, that would be great. But, we aren't in a perfect world. And you can't put yourself in these ladies' shoes. You can't even begin to imagine the pain and heartbreak they carry around on a daily basis. 

I just wish the people that post these things would stop and think about their words. I wish they would truly think about how they would feel if they had their body violated in a way that they had no control over. I wish they would stop and actually have a conversation with one of these women who has been a victim of rape. See the pain in their eyes and hear the hurt in their voice. Then tell me that they don't deserve a choice in what happens to their bodies. Someone already told them once they didn't have a choice what happened to their bodies. What these people are doing by forcing their views and judgement is not much different in my opinion. 

We are supposed to be Christians who love as Christ loved. When we go around and point fingers at those that are doing things that we don't agree with we aren't showing love. We are showing an ugly side of being human. We don't make people want to be Christians by shoving our views down their throats. It just doesn't work. 

Now you may wonder, am I pro choice or pro life. I am actually both in a sense. I think a woman who sleeps around and gets pregnant shouldn't have the choice to abort because she made the choice to sleep around. Poor decisions do not make a good enough argument for me to justify aborting a child. Learn what safe sex is or don't sleep around. It's pretty simple. You don't get an abortion because you were careless and stupid. But I think those who were raped and put in a situation not of there making should have a say in what happens to their bodies. Someone already stripped them of their rights and dignity. They've lost enough already. Don't take this choice away from them. They have to live in this aftermath for the rest of their life. Don't make it so impossible for them that they give up on themselves and end their life. Because that does happen. They don't know how to cope. And healing takes time. 

Basically, be kind. Be loving as Christ would have you to be. We are all going to be judged some day. So you might as well stop judging people and start loving them. 

Outdoorsy....not so much!

I blog about all the things I love all the time. Today I'm going to share something I don't much care for. The great outdoors. I can't stand outside. Bugs, weeds, critters.....ugh. I hate them all. I love the beauty of it, I just don't like to be in the great big mess of it all. My husband on the other hand, LOVES the outdoors. That man loves to fish, hunt, and farm. He just loves being outside. We are complete opposites. I hate sweating and love to be indoors with pretty things and cooking. He wants to be outside in the sun doing things in the dirt with his hands.

Last week we gained a new lease property. It has quite a bit of land. Seth wanted to go out there and get a good look at it on the 4 wheeler. Now, I don't know a better way to spend good quality time with my husband than riding on the back of a 4 wheeler with my arms wrapped around him. So, as much as I hate the outdoors, I put on my cowgirl boots, jeans, and t-shirt. I threw my hair up in a ponytail, we dropped Talent off at my parent's house, and we went out to explore. As much as I hate being attacked by bugs and critters, I savored every moment of being on the back of that 4 wheeler holding on to that hunk of mine.

Since we had Talent we don't get to just run off and do things together very often. So when we do, I enjoy every second. Especially when it's something like riding a 4 wheeler. It gives me an excuse to snuggle up close to him. There's not much else in this world I like more than having a reason to hang on to him. So, we explored our new lease land. We found an old windmill that was still working. We almost ran over a fawn. I've never seen a baby deer that close in my life. It was absolutely gorgeous. We ran into more blackberry bushes than I could have ever dreamed of. I now know I will never want for blackberries as long as I live. We were only out there maybe an hour or two. But, we had a good time. It was nice to be together.

As a parent, you need that time together every once in a while. Being together is important. I try really hard to remember that I was a wife LONG before I was a mother. I work really hard to remember that Seth is still my number one priority. That relationship is a very important one and I always try to nurture it. Being a mom is wonderful and I wouldn't trade it for anything in this world. But, someday my sweet little boy is going to grow up and find himself some stinky, rotten girl who will probably steal him away from me. When that happens, I will be left with this loving man I married. So I always remember to take care of the relationship I have. The relationship that I cherish and am so thankful that God gave me.

Being in the outdoors isn't what I enjoy, but it isn't all that bad when I have that sweet man of mine to enjoy it with. I know I can enjoy just about anything as long as I am with him.