"Sometimes in life there really are bonds formed that can never be broken. Sometimes you really can find that one person who will stand by you no matter what; maybe you’ll find it in a spouse and celebrate it with your dream wedding, but there is also the chance that the one person you can count on for a lifetime, the one person who knows you, sometimes better than you know yourself, is the same person who's been standing beside you all along."
-Marion St. Clair, Bride Wars
I've written before about Bride Wars and how it relates to the relationship I have with my best friend, Shawna. We have a different relationship than I have ever had with any other friend in my life. We've known each other for years, however, we did not become close until we were out of high school and college. When we reconnected we were both already married. Shawna had two babies, Alex was getting ready to turn 3 and Logan was around 18 months old. We connected over a social media site and a silly quiz. For some reason we clicked, instantly. Sure, we've had our ups and downs. All friends do. We've had moments when we've driven each other nuts. That's what you do, you drive each other crazy, but you also love each other like nothing else in the world. We've been there for each other through some pretty tough times. We've gone long whiles without talking. I'm sure at some point we've both thought about throwing in the towel over something stupid. But, we've always come back to the friendship. We've always been there for each other.....no matter what.
We've now been through pregnancy together. We've been through deaths of loved ones together. We've been through personal failures together. We've also been through personal triumphs together. Together we have found a place that feels complete in a friendship that most don't understand. She can text me something and 9 times out of 10 I can tell her tone without ever hearing her voice. She can email me and I can read between the lines of that email better than if I was sitting in the same room with her. She's pretty much the same way with me. We both have our own individual "tells" and we each have come to know them so well. It's scary at times.
What makes our friendship unique? Well, we live three hours away from each other. We have never lived in the same town or even close enough to be in convenient driving distance since we became best friends. All of our friendship depends on us working at keeping in touch. It's a long distance relationship that we both put so much time and effort into. Whether it's emailing, texting, or calling, we both work really hard to keep our friendship in tact. Living three hours away from your BFF is hard. It's hard when she's having a hard day and you want to be there to hug all the hurt and frustration away. It's hard when you are having a hard day and you wish more than anything she could just come over and eat a jar of Nutella with you. But, we've made it work for so many years now, and we've done it pretty effortlessly, with the exception of when we both had tiny babies. That was a hard time for both of us. Babies don't cooperate well!
I don't write all of this so you feel sorry for us. I write all of this so you know how thankful I am to be able to have a friendship like this one. My BFF may not live in the same town. We may secretly (or sometimes not so secretly) despise all of those girls who have their BFF's in the same town most days. But, we are really grateful to have each other. I've had some great times with Shawna. When we do get together, we know how to have fun! Even if we have to bring along all of our little gremlins!
So, here's to my "Emma girl". I love you, sister. You are the one person who knows how to make me spill my guts when I'm having a crappy day and don't want to talk. You are about the only person I will vent to openly about things and never worry about you getting upset with me. I'm so thankful for that. I'm thankful that you don't take everything I say to mean exactly what it sounds like I'm saying. Thank you for taking the time to understand me and my big mouth. I love you, I love you, I love you. I hope you know how thankful I am for your friendship. Here's to many more crazy years and to a lot of memories of embarrassing our children! Oh, and at least ONE more NKOTB concert! :)