Caution: Read at your own risk!

Lately I have been seeing a lot of Facebook chatter about abortion and how Christians are doing pickets at clinics and concerts and all kinds of places. Most of these posts and reposts are from my "Christian" friends. It truly makes my stomach turn. 

Here is why. I have a friend who was raped. I know the struggles she has to face on a daily basis and she didn't have a baby from that situation. But if she had gotten pregnant I can't even imagine how much worse this would be for her. It is a situation that you can't even begin to comprehend unless you have been in it. And just from the struggles I've watched my friend go through, I don't think having a baby from that would have been good. Not just because she has nightmares still 15 years later, but because I can't even begin to imagine how you would feel joy over that kind of pregnancy. 

See all of these people think that because it is a baby, a human life, this is a no brainer. It's an easy thing to say "just give it up for adoption" and in a perfect world, that would be great. But, we aren't in a perfect world. And you can't put yourself in these ladies' shoes. You can't even begin to imagine the pain and heartbreak they carry around on a daily basis. 

I just wish the people that post these things would stop and think about their words. I wish they would truly think about how they would feel if they had their body violated in a way that they had no control over. I wish they would stop and actually have a conversation with one of these women who has been a victim of rape. See the pain in their eyes and hear the hurt in their voice. Then tell me that they don't deserve a choice in what happens to their bodies. Someone already told them once they didn't have a choice what happened to their bodies. What these people are doing by forcing their views and judgement is not much different in my opinion. 

We are supposed to be Christians who love as Christ loved. When we go around and point fingers at those that are doing things that we don't agree with we aren't showing love. We are showing an ugly side of being human. We don't make people want to be Christians by shoving our views down their throats. It just doesn't work. 

Now you may wonder, am I pro choice or pro life. I am actually both in a sense. I think a woman who sleeps around and gets pregnant shouldn't have the choice to abort because she made the choice to sleep around. Poor decisions do not make a good enough argument for me to justify aborting a child. Learn what safe sex is or don't sleep around. It's pretty simple. You don't get an abortion because you were careless and stupid. But I think those who were raped and put in a situation not of there making should have a say in what happens to their bodies. Someone already stripped them of their rights and dignity. They've lost enough already. Don't take this choice away from them. They have to live in this aftermath for the rest of their life. Don't make it so impossible for them that they give up on themselves and end their life. Because that does happen. They don't know how to cope. And healing takes time. 

Basically, be kind. Be loving as Christ would have you to be. We are all going to be judged some day. So you might as well stop judging people and start loving them. 

Outdoorsy....not so much!

I blog about all the things I love all the time. Today I'm going to share something I don't much care for. The great outdoors. I can't stand outside. Bugs, weeds, critters.....ugh. I hate them all. I love the beauty of it, I just don't like to be in the great big mess of it all. My husband on the other hand, LOVES the outdoors. That man loves to fish, hunt, and farm. He just loves being outside. We are complete opposites. I hate sweating and love to be indoors with pretty things and cooking. He wants to be outside in the sun doing things in the dirt with his hands.

Last week we gained a new lease property. It has quite a bit of land. Seth wanted to go out there and get a good look at it on the 4 wheeler. Now, I don't know a better way to spend good quality time with my husband than riding on the back of a 4 wheeler with my arms wrapped around him. So, as much as I hate the outdoors, I put on my cowgirl boots, jeans, and t-shirt. I threw my hair up in a ponytail, we dropped Talent off at my parent's house, and we went out to explore. As much as I hate being attacked by bugs and critters, I savored every moment of being on the back of that 4 wheeler holding on to that hunk of mine.

Since we had Talent we don't get to just run off and do things together very often. So when we do, I enjoy every second. Especially when it's something like riding a 4 wheeler. It gives me an excuse to snuggle up close to him. There's not much else in this world I like more than having a reason to hang on to him. So, we explored our new lease land. We found an old windmill that was still working. We almost ran over a fawn. I've never seen a baby deer that close in my life. It was absolutely gorgeous. We ran into more blackberry bushes than I could have ever dreamed of. I now know I will never want for blackberries as long as I live. We were only out there maybe an hour or two. But, we had a good time. It was nice to be together.

As a parent, you need that time together every once in a while. Being together is important. I try really hard to remember that I was a wife LONG before I was a mother. I work really hard to remember that Seth is still my number one priority. That relationship is a very important one and I always try to nurture it. Being a mom is wonderful and I wouldn't trade it for anything in this world. But, someday my sweet little boy is going to grow up and find himself some stinky, rotten girl who will probably steal him away from me. When that happens, I will be left with this loving man I married. So I always remember to take care of the relationship I have. The relationship that I cherish and am so thankful that God gave me.

Being in the outdoors isn't what I enjoy, but it isn't all that bad when I have that sweet man of mine to enjoy it with. I know I can enjoy just about anything as long as I am with him.

I'm my own boss!

So in 1995 a product came out that truly changed my world. ProActiv. I have used this stuff for the last 18 years and had great success with it. Now that I've left my teens and 20's it's time for me to start focussing  on anti-aging products. I mean, let's face it, I will be 32 tomorrow and while I'm not at all ashamed of my age, I want to take care of the skin I have because I'm definitely not getting any younger and neither is my skin. 

I have been searching for the most affordable skincare with the best results. I started small...using BB cream. I added in an under eye cream. Then a face serum or night cream. Nothing seemed to be doing anything noticeable. Then, my friend Kelly started posting about the very doctors that had made my most trusted skincare line, Rodan and Fields. 

I kept watching Kelly's posts come around on my Facebook feed and I even went to the site and looked around. Then I realized it wasn't marketed exactly the same. This was actually something I could purchase AND sell. I was interested already. 

After sending messages back and forth with Kelly I went to see her. She gave me a facial kit and also used this really cool tool called, the Macro E, on my face. I was hooked. I just needed to find a way to join this fast growing business. 

I prayed about it. I talked to my husband about it. I talked to my parents and best friends about it. Then I prayed some more. A month went by and my Mom finally said she wanted me to take this opportunity and she offered to pay. Me being hard headed, I said no. But then I talked to Seth some more and decided maybe this was my prayer being answered. So I enrolled in a new business on Saturday. 

I am a consultant for Rodan + Fields. I sell a line of anti-aging skincare that will seriously blow your mind. The facial I received to take home and try was one of the most amazing things I've ever put on my face. I don't know why I was surprised. I've always loved anything Rodan & Fields have made.

Being part of this company is already the most amazing feeling. I can do this on MY time. It allows me to stay home and be the Mommy and Wife I have wanted to be. And I get to make my own schedule. Plus, I'm meeting other strong and encouraging women along the way who are also selling and networking right alongside me. It's amazing. I can't wait to see where this takes me. 

I'd love to show you the products or talk to you about the business if you are ever interested or even if you know someone else that might be! It is already changing my whole world. It could do the same for you. 

www.dreynolds20.myrandf.com

Time Travel

A few Christmases ago my husband bought me an iPod radio dock thingy for my kitchen. That's exactly what I call it too. Anyway. The last week I have been bringing in my iPod when I get out of the car. I've put it on random and let it shuffle through various genres of music. When I came across the country genre it was like traveling back in time. You know people always say a song can take you back. I truly believe that. This week I've traveled back to high school, graduation, several different breakups and relationships, several friendships, and the beginning of my relationship with Seth. Occasionally a song from our wedding cd comes on and transports me to a place that my heart still feels all fluttery about. 

Music is one of those things for me that is right up there with breathing. My best friend is a writer. She's amazing when it comes to words. I'm not. So I depend on music to make my heart heard. I have my happy music, sad music, healing music, and mad music. What's funny is that Seth can usually tell my mood by what I'm listening too. If I'm listening to Lifehouse, he knows someone has hurt me. If I'm listening to Daughtry, I've most likely got a lot in my mind. If I'm listening to rap music, I'm mad and he probably shouldn't talk to me. If I'm listening to country, pop, or Christian music, then I'm most likely happy and just fine. Music is a big part of me. It really makes all the difference in my world. Take music away and I'm lost. I can't function without it. 

This week it has been nice to just have the music going an the tv turned off. I've enjoyed my time travels. Not all the memories have been happy ones, but, I'm a better person and a stronger one for having gone through those moments. 

You did good....

I write about my husband a lot. This post won't be much different. I am up tonight making muffins and breakfast cookies for Talent. While making them I have the radio on. There is a song that came on the radio by Kip Moore. It's called Pretty Girl. I have heard it several times. Tonight it really hit me pretty hard. You see, I married a man that has a very different "love language" than I do. I need words of affirmation. I need to be told I am loved, that I'm doing a good job, and that I'm just all around what he wants. He just needs to be shown love in a much different way. For instance, I make the bed every single day because to him, that shows I love him. I can clean the kitchen, his bathroom, or vaccum, and he will think I hung the moon. Doing things like that for him mean more to him than anything I could ever say. He needs actions. So we are very different in the love languages we speak. But, every now and then we are actually able to get on the same page.

The Kip Moore song hits me so hard because at the end of it, it talks about his wife having a baby. He tells her, "Hey pretty girl, you did so good Our baby's got your eyes And a fighters heart like I knew she would Hey pretty girl, you did so good"  I remember after Talent was born and everyone else had left. We were finally all alone after 22 hours of having doctors, nurses, and family everywhere.....Seth kissed me on the forehead, squeezed my hand and said, "You did good, babe. I'm proud of you." That song takes me back to that moment every single time. It's a day I will never forget. Not just because it's the day we had our sweet baby boy. But, because something happened in our relationship that day. Something I never thought possible. We became even closer. Our relationship grew and became even stronger. That day was a beautiful day for both of us for so many reasons.

I love that music can take me to a place like that. I love that it can take me back to a memory and bring it so "front and center".....it's my most favorite thing about music. You may not be able to live in that moment forever but a song can take you back like nothing else. I'm so thankful for that. And I'm so thankful to have such wonderful memories with this man. I truly have an amazing husband. I think God did an amazing job picking out my husband. He's the most amazing man I could have. I love him so much.

If you want to see the video and here the song click on the link below.

Pretty Girl