Days two through four are actually a combination of things that go hand in hand. My son was diagnosed with several food allergies when he was 15 months old. Some of them aren't anything we have to really worry about, but, a few of them are life threatening. As a parent you never want there to be anything wrong with your child. Well, my son is allergic to the following: milk, soy, fish (black bass specifically), potatoes, strawberries, grapes, wheat, peanuts, tree nuts, malt, penicillin, cats, dogs, and alternaria. Of these allergies he is anaphylactic to fish, peanuts, & tree nuts. He also is severely allergic to cats...they affect his breathing whether they are in close proximity or not.
I have seen Talent's reaction to all of his allergens first hand. The ones that aren't severe don't really do much. Some of them cause a rash, some cause eczema. But the ones that are severe effect his breathing. His eyes and lips swell and he breaks out in hives all over. It is one of the scariest things I've ever witnessed as a first time mom. But, I am thankful for his doctors who have steered me in the right directions as far as treatment plans go.
I have a great allergist that we take Talent to. He's a nice man and his staff is very friendly. They have taken great care of Talent and have always taken the time to address any of my concerns with Talent's allergies. Even when my concerns seem a bit silly, like, "Can he swim in the ocean or lake with his fish allergy?" I wasn't treated like an idiot asking stupid questions and the doc didn't rush me out of there. He took his time and answered all of my questions and even went beyond that to make sure he told me things to avoid as far as certain allergies were concerned. We are blessed to have this doctor.
I am also thankful to be a part of so many allergy parent groups on Facebook. It sounds silly, but, they make me feel less "alone" in this allergy world. I've learned things in these allergy groups about how to keep my kid safe and how to make him feel included without having to become "that" mom. Those moms and dads in the groups have no idea how much they mean to me. They are helpful and supportive and even if I don't know them, I care about their child's well being. Today we had a parent whose child passed away because of a cross contamination issue on Halloween. It absolutely breaks my heart for that family. I don't know them personally but I have cried a river of tears tonight for their loss.
I am thankful for whoever came up with the Teal Pumpkin Project. I know it has been met with some resistance, but, it's a good thing. It's a way to keep kids like mine safe. Talent can't have anything that has trace amounts of his allergens on it. His first reaction to peanuts was to a sugar cookie that had been baked on a CLEAN cookie sheet that had been previously used to make peanut butter cookies. So, people that argue that parents can go through the candy once the child gets home....sorry, but, that wouldn't work with a child like mine. The Teal Pumpkin Project makes it to where he could trick or treat safely at any house that had non-food treats. I wouldn't have to worry about him. I wouldn't have to spend that night in fear of what was going to be handed out at each home. Currently we only go to 4 houses, sometimes 5. So he doesn't get to trick or treat like all the other kids around here. But, he's taken to safe places. Friends and family that I know and trust that have things he can have. People that are very aware of his allergies and will be sure to keep his treats completely separate. I am thankful for those people.
I am also very thankful to the friends of mine that don't have food allergic children and choose to be mindful of allergies. I have driven my friends and family nuts, I'm sure, about allergies and the dangers of cross contamination. But, in doing that I have some friends that are more aware of food allergies now. Friends that I've had ask me for safe snack ideas for school and daycare. For that, I can never tell them just how very much it means to me. These are friends that aren't local to me. Some live in my state but 100 miles away, others live 1000's of miles away in states far away from me. Either way, they are being more allergy conscious and it means the world to me. I'm thankful that I have such thoughtful friends. They will never know the impact they are having on the allergy kids and parents. But, I know and it makes me proud.
This allergy world is something I never imagined my life would be. Like I said before, no one wants something like this for their child. But, I can guarantee that I will make my child's life a fun one. He will have as many wonderful experiences as I can fit in and it won't all have to be food oriented. I am working very hard to make him understand that he has food allergies. I am trying to teach him what foods he is allergic to and what is unsafe for him to eat. I know he's only three, but, he's catching on. I know someday soon he will be at school and won't be able to have me there to ensure that everything he touches and consumes is safe. So, I'm working hard to make him into his biggest advocate. He needs to know these things. And I'm determined he will.
Allergies suck. That's all there is to that. They do. They make life hard. They make things a little scarier than they should be. But, we can live with them. We are making the best of life with food allergies. It's a struggle, but, with the people we've been blessed with, I think we'll be able to continue down this road of success.
Allergic reaction to peanuts. Treated, this was several hours after doctor.
Hives from soy reaction.
If you were like me, and didn't have a clue about food allergies before you started seeing my posts, please, educate yourself. I don't ask just for the safety of my child. I ask for the safety of others out there like him. I was so blind to food allergies before Talent and it has changed the way I view everything. Every outing, every food gathering, every party, all of it.... Visit the FARE website or
www.kidswithfoodallergies.org I encourage you to learn all that you can and see how you can make a difference in someone else's life.